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The Fourth Step Inventory form is an essential tool for self-exploration within the journey of recovery. It draws inspiration from the foundational texts of Alcoholics Anonymous, particularly the Big Book, providing a structured approach to understanding one's character traits. This worksheet encourages users to examine both their flaws and strengths, inviting a balanced view of oneself. While the document offers suggestions for identifying specific defects, it emphasizes personal reflection, allowing individuals to adapt the content to fit their unique moral compass. Importantly, the Fourth Step isn't merely an exercise in self-critique; it's about fostering a deeper understanding of one's values, behaviors, and the choices made in life. This inventory focuses on the present, steering clear of past justifications related to substance use, yet it does acknowledge the roots of those behaviors. Each person is encouraged to prioritize their most impactful flaws and consider their assets carefully. Users can mark off character traits and then delve deeper into the flaws that resonate most. This multilayered reflection ultimately paves the way for meaningful change and growth in the recovery process.

Fourth Step Inventory Example

FOURTH STEP INVENTORY

These Fourth Step worksheets use the wording from Alcoholics Anonymous (the Big Book) pages 63-71. Text in italics is quoted from the Big Book. When the word “optional” is used in the worksheets, it means that the Big Book suggests doing this but does not suggest writing anything down. However, many people who have used these worksheets found it helpful to write down their flaws and their specific defects.

Remember, these worksheets are meant to be helpful, but do not feel restricted by them.

You can get the latest version of these worksheets and other AA materials at www.royy.com.

These worksheets are not officially produced or approved by Alcoholics Anonymous. They have been circulating unofficially

among AA members for at least 50 years in various versions. Their origin is unknown to the producer of this version.

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HELPFUL HINTS

PREPARATION: before you start this written Fourth Step, read pages 63-71 in the Big Book and the Fourth Step in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions.

NOTE:

1.This inventory is not an exercise in beating yourself up. Be scrupulously honest but be fair to yourself. Inventory your strengths as well as your defects.

2.The following checklist merely suggests what some people consider flaws. You must decide how they fit with your own moral code. Do not be limited by this list--add your other flaws and assets. It is in this Fourth Step that you begin to discover your values– what you consider right and wrong,

functional and dysfunctional behavior–and how you live up to your standards.

3.This inventory is about who you are now, not who you were when you were drinking and taking drugs. Be careful, however, not to blame all past bad behavior on drinking and drugs if the seed of that bad behavior still exists in you.

4.Don't be discouraged when your character defects are not immediately lifted after you

have completed your 5th Step--that is the work of the 6th, 7th and 10th Steps.

5.Prioritize! Spend most of your time on

the 20% of your flaws that cause 80% of the trouble in your life. You can initially check off as many flaws as you want on the checklist but then prioritize to the 12 that cause the most trouble. If you list more

than 12 flaws, you are probably beating yourself up! You must check at lease twice as many assets as you check flaws or you really are beating yourself up.

INTO ACTION: On the following list, check all of your defects and all of your assets. This is an inventory of both bad and good characteristics. Then discuss your defects (with your best example of each) on the Review of Flaws form.

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Glossary of Words Used in Steps Four and Five

Moral Inventory

..A list of personality defects, violations of moral

 

principles, defects in character, maladjustments,

 

and dysfunctional behavior.

Character

Moral vigor or firmness, especially as acquired

 

through self-discipline.

Defect

Lack of something necessary for completeness; flaw;

 

weakness, fault; same as Shortcoming.

Dishonest

The act or practice of telling a lie, or of cheating,

 

deceiving, stealing, etc.

Exact

Precise, detailed.

Fault

Something done wrongly, an error or mistake.

Fear

Painful emotion marked by alarm, dread, anxiety,

 

agitation, uneasiness, apprehension, etc.

Frightened

A temporary or continual state of Fear. Anxious.

Inconsiderate

Without thought or consideration of others.

Nature

The essential characteristic of a thing.

Self-centered

Occupying or concerned only with one’s own affairs

 

(same as Selfish).

Self-seeker

A person who seeks only or mainly to further his

 

own interests.

Selfish

Too much concerned with one’s own welfare or

 

interests and having little or no concern for others

 

(same as self-centered).

Shortcoming

Falling short of what is expected or required (same

 

as Defect).

Wrong

Immoral, improper; not suitable or appropriate.

Footnotes to the list on following page:

1Dr. Bob’s Fourth Step List; in “He Sold Himself Short,” (Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 292)

2 Seven Deadly Sins (Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 48)

3Clarence Snyder’s Fourth Step List (one of the original 40 members of AA, see “Home Brewmeister,” Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 297-303)

4 Boy Scout Law, Robert Binkey's The Official Boy Scout Handbook (10th edition, 1990)(so?

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4 Character Defect

 

 

 

Opposite Asset 4

aggressive, belligerent

 

good-natured, gentle

angry2

 

 

forgiving, calm, generous

apathetic

 

 

interested, concerned, alert

apprehensive, afraid

 

 

 

calm, courageous

argumentative, quarrelsome

 

agreeable

arrogant, insolent

 

 

unassuming, humble

attacking, critical

 

 

 

fair, self-restrained

avoidant

 

 

faces problems and acts

blocking

 

 

 

 

honest, intuitive

boastful

 

 

 

 

modest, humble

careless1

 

careful, painstaking, concerned

cheating

 

 

 

 

honest

competitive (socially)

 

 

cooperative

compulsive

 

 

 

 

free

conceited1,self-important

 

humble, modest

contradictory, oppositional|

reasonable, agreeable

contrary, intractable, pigheaded

reasonable

controlling

 

 

lets go, esp. of other's lives

cowardly

 

 

 

 

brave 4

critical 3

non-judgmental, praising, tolerant,

cynical

 

 

 

 

open-minded

deceitful

 

 

 

 

guileless, honest

defensive

 

 

 

 

open to criticism

defiant, contemptuous

 

 

respectful

denying

 

 

 

 

honest, accepting

dependent

 

accepts help but is self-reliant

depressed, morose|

hopeful, optimistic, cheerful 4

dirty, poor hygiene

 

 

 

clean 4

dishonest3

 

 

 

 

honest

disloyal, treacherous

 

 

faithful, loyal 4

disobedient

 

 

 

 

obedient 4

disrespectful, insolent

 

respectful, reverent 4

enabling

 

setting boundaries, tough love

envying2,3

 

empathetic, generous, admiring

evasive, deceitful

 

candid, straightforward

exaggerating

 

 

 

 

honest, realistic

faithless, disloyal

 

 

 

reliable, faithful

falsely modest

 

 

honest, has self-esteem

falsely prideful2,3

 

 

 

modest, humble

fantasizing, unrealistic

 

 

practical, realistic

fearful3

 

 

 

confidant, courageous

Checklist of Flaws and Assets

forgetful

 

responsible

gluttonous2, excessive

moderate

gossiping3

 

closed-mouth, kind, praising

greedy 2,3

 

moderate, generous, sharing

hateful3

forgiving, loving, concerned for others

hypersensitive

tolerant, doesn't personalize

ill-tempered1, bitchy

good-tempered, calm

impatient3

 

patient

impulsive, reckless|

consistent, considered actions

inconsiderate

 

 

thoughtful, considerate

indecisive, timid

 

firm, decisive

indifferent, apathetic, aloof

caring

inflexible, stubborn

 

open-minded, flexible

insecure, anxious

 

self-confident, secure

insincere3, hypocritical

sincere, honest

intolerant1

 

tolerant, understanding, patient

irresponsible, reckless

responsible

isolating, solitary

 

sociable, outgoing

jealous1,3

 

trusting, generous, admiring

judgmental

 

 

broadminded, tolerant

justifying (own actions)

honest, frank, candid

lack of purpose

 

purposeful

lazy, indolent

 

industrious, conscientious

loud

 

 

tasteful, quiet

lustful2

 

 

healthy sexuality

lying3

 

 

honest

manipulative

 

candid, honest, non-controlling

masked, closed

 

honest, open, candid

nagging

 

 

supportive

narrow minded

 

open minded

obscene, crude

 

modest, courteous

over emotional

 

emotionally stable

perfectionistic

 

realistic goals

pessimistic|

realistic, hopeful, optimistic, trusting

possessive

 

 

generous

prejudiced

 

 

open-minded

procrastinates3

disciplined, acts promptly

projecting (negative)

clear sighted, optimistic

rationalizing

 

 

candid, honest

resentful1,3,

bitter, hateful

forgiving

resisting growing

 

willing to grow

rude, discourteous

 

polite, courteous 4

sarcastic1

 

praising, tolerant

self-important3

 

humble, modest

self-centered

 

caring of others

self-destructive, self-defeating

self-fulfilling

self-hating

 

self-accepting, loving

self-justifying3

 

admitting wrongs, humble

self-pitying3

 

grateful, realistic, accepting

self-righteous

 

humble, understanding

self-seeking3

 

selfless, concerned for others

selfish1,3

altruistic, concerned with others

shy

 

 

outgoing

slothful (lazy)2,3

 

industrious, taking action

spiteful, malicious

 

 

forgiving

stealing

 

 

honest

stubborn

 

open-minded, willing

sullen

 

 

cheerful

superior, grandiose, pretentious

humble

superstitious

 

realistic, no magical thinking

suspicious

 

 

trusting

tense

 

 

calm, serene

thinking negatively3

 

being positive

treacherous

 

 

trustworthy

undisciplined, self-indulgent

disciplined

unfair

 

 

fair

unfriendly, hostile, bitchy

friendly4

ungrateful

 

thankful, grateful

unkind, mean, malicious, spiteful

kind 4

unsupportive of others

 

supportive

untrustworthy, unreliable, dishonest|

trustworthy 4

useless, destructive

 

 

helpful 4

vain

 

modest, humble

vindictive

 

 

forgiving

violent

 

 

gentle

vulgar3

 

 

polite

wasteful

 

 

thrifty 4

willful

 

accepting of the inevitable

withdrawn

 

 

outgoing

wordy, verbose

 

frank, to the point, succinct

Other dysfunctional ways of acting, feeling or thinking which cause others or me pain (specify in the following Review of Flaws).

See source footnotes on page 2.

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Instructions for Completion

REVIEW OF FLAWS

First, we searched out the flaws in our make-up which caused our failure.

(optional)

FLAW

Give your best example of this specific flaw in your life.

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4

5

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10

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12

FLAW

Give your best example of this specific flaw in your life.

If you must list additional flaws do so below. Do not beat yourself up.

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RESENTMENTS

Do not be restricted by this list. It is just to help you get started. List your resentments on the next pages.

PEOPLE

In-Laws

Father

Judges

Mother

Lawyers

Boy Friends/Lovers

Life-long Friends

Brothers

Parole Officers

Sisters

Police

Sponsors

Probation Officers

Employers

School Friends

A.A. Friends

Teachers

Acquaintances

Uncles

Aunts

Wives

Best Friends

INSTITUTIONS

C.A. Friends

Authority

Childhood Friends

Bible

Clergy

Child Protection

Co-Workers

Church

Cousins

Correctional System

Creditors

Education System

Doctors

Government

Employees

Law

Girl Friends

Marriage

Husbands

Health/Mental Health System

 

Nationality

Philosophy

Races

Religion

Society

PRINCIPLES

Adultery

Death

God-Deity

Golden Rule

Heaven

Hell

Homophobia

Jesus Christ

Life After Death

Original Sin

Retribution

Satan

Seven Deadly Sins

Sin

Ten Commandments

MORE from your experience!

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Step Four Resentments Checklist Column 4*

“Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes. Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened?”

SELFISH

Not seeing others point of view, problems or needs

Wanting things my way

Wanting special treatment

Wanting others to meet my needs– dependence

Wanting what others have

Wanting to control–dominance

Thinking I'm better–grandiosity

Wanting to be the best

Thinking others are jealous

Wanting others to be like me

Being miserly, possessive

Wanting more than my share

Reacting from self loathing, self righteousness

Too concerned about me

Not trying to be a friend

Wanting to look good or be liked

Concerned only with my needs

DISHONEST

Not seeing or admitting where I was at fault

Having a superior attitude–thinking I'm better

Blaming others for my problems

Not admitting I've done the same thing

Not expressing feelings or ideas

Not being clear about motives

Lying, cheating, stealing

Hiding reality–not facing facts

Stubbornly holding on to inaccurate beliefs

Breaking rules

Lying to myself

Exaggerating, minimalizing

Setting myself up to be “wronged”

Expecting others to be what they are not

Being perfectionistic

SELF SEEKING

Manipulating others to do my will

Putting others down internally or externally to build me up

Engaging in character assassination

Acting superior

Acting to fill a void

Engaging in gluttony or lusting at the expense of another person

Ignoring others’ needs

Trying to control others

Getting revenge when I don't get what I want

Holding a resentment

Acting to make me feel good

FRIGHTENED (OF)

Peoples' opinions

Rejection, abandonment

Loneliness

Physical injury, abuse

Not being able to control or change someone

My inferiority, inadequacy

Criticism

Expressing ideas or feelings

Getting trapped

Expo sure, embarrassment

_______________

*Thanks to Anonymous in New England.

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Instructions for Completion

Complete each column top to bottom before proceeding to the next column.

Thus, for instance, fill in all the names of those you are resentful at

before filling in the column for the cause of each resentment. List real resentments, not imaginary or theoretical resentments. Is the resentment a problem for you, does it cause you pain?

Column 1 In dealing with resentments we set them on paper. We listed people, institutions or principles with whom we were angry. Column 2 We asked ourselves why we were angry.

Column 3 On our grudge list we set opposite each name our injuries. Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex relations which had been interfered with?

Column 4 Referring to our list again. Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes. Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened?

Column 5 This Column is optional. List specific other defects to show your participation in the resentments.

Reading from left to right we now see the resentment (Column 1), the cause (Column 2), the part of self that had been affected (Column 3), and the exact nature of the defect within us that allowed the resentment to surface and block us off from God’s will (Columns 4 and 5).

COLUMN 1

COLUMN 2

REVIEW OF RESENTMENTS

“SELF”

COLUMN 3

COL. 4

COLUMN 5

Affects My

My

Specific

 

Own

Defects

 

Mistakes

(optional)

I’m RESENTFUL at:

The Cause:

1

2

3

4

5

6

-7-

I’m RESENTFUL at:

The Cause

7

8

9

10

11

12

If you must list additional resentments do so below.

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FEARS

Do not be restricted by this list. It is just to help you get started. List your fears on the next pages

abandonment

flying

needing anyone

aging

fourth & fifth steps

not being good enough

anger

future, the

not being happy

authority figures

getting fat or thin

not being liked

being alone

God

not being perfect

being deceived

going home

people (specify who)

being found out

going out on a “whim”

police, the

being myself

having children

poverty

change

homelessness

procrastination

compliments

homosexuality

rape

confrontation

honesty

rejection

creditors

humiliation

relationships

death

hurting others

resentments, my

denial, my

I’m a fraud and others will find out

responsibility

disapproval

incarceration

risks

disease

intimacy

saying that I can’t do something

divorce

IRS, the

sex

embarrassment

letting go

sponsor, my

employment

living

success

facing myself

loneliness

unemployment

failure

losing hope

unknown, the

fear

love

violence

feelings

mediocrity

work

financial insecurity

money

Search your own experience for other fears..

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Form Characteristics

Fact Name Description
Origin The Fourth Step Inventory form has circulated informally among Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) members for over 50 years. Its exact origins remain unknown.
Usage Guidance Participants are encouraged to read pages 63-71 of the AA Big Book before starting the inventory. The process is not about self-criticism but rather an honest assessment of both strengths and flaws.
Optional Elements The form includes optional sections where members can choose whether to write down their flaws as suggested by the Big Book.
Legal Status This worksheet is unofficial and not formally produced or endorsed by Alcoholics Anonymous, meaning it does not have legal standing within or outside the organization.

Guidelines on Utilizing Fourth Step Inventory

Completing the Fourth Step Inventory form is a personal journey of reflection and honesty. After you have gathered your thoughts and made a list of your strengths and weaknesses, you will proceed to fill out the form. This process aids in organizing your reflections in a manner that supports your growth and understanding. Follow the outlined steps carefully to ensure an organized and meaningful inventory.

  1. Begin by reading pages 63-71 in the Big Book and the relevant section in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for preparation.
  2. Take a moment to gather your thoughts. Understand that this inventory is about identifying both defects and assets in your character.
  3. Using the checklist provided, mark all flaws and assets that resonate with you. Feel free to add additional flaws or strengths that may not be listed.
  4. After checking off your characteristics, prioritize the flaws. Focus on the 20% of defects that contribute to 80% of your difficulties.
  5. Ensure you have at least twice as many checked assets listed as compared to flaws, to prevent a skewed perspective.
  6. Review your flaws. For each flaw, choose your best example from your life and write it down in the designated space.
  7. If you have more than 12 flaws, be mindful of your self-assessment—this is not a place for harsh judgment.
  8. Once completed, set the form aside and reflect upon it before discussing your findings with someone you trust.

When you have filled out the form, the next steps will involve deeper discussions as you move forward in your journey. Remember to approach this with openness and a mindset ready for growth.

What You Should Know About This Form

What is the purpose of the Fourth Step Inventory form?

The Fourth Step Inventory form is designed to help individuals take stock of their character traits, both positive and negative. Its primary aim is to encourage honest self-reflection, enabling users to identify their strengths and flaws. This process is essential for personal growth and recovery within the framework of Alcoholics Anonymous. By completing this inventory, individuals begin to understand their values and how they align with their behavior.

How should I prepare for filling out the Fourth Step Inventory?

Before starting the inventory, it is vital to read pages 63-71 of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, along with the Fourth Step section in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. This preparatory reading provides context and guidance for the inventory process. Additionally, individuals are encouraged to approach this exercise with self-compassion and fairness, aiming for honesty without self-criticism.

What types of traits are included in the inventory?

The inventory consists of a list of character defects alongside their opposite assets. It is important to consider both when reflecting on oneself. While the list serves as a guideline, individuals should feel free to add other qualities that resonate with their personal experiences. This comprehensive approach allows for a deeper understanding of one’s character.

Why is it suggested to list more assets than flaws?

Listing at least twice as many positive traits as negative ones helps prevent self-neglect and promotes a balanced self-view. Focusing excessively on flaws can lead to feelings of inadequacy. The aim is to foster a healthy perspective that recognizes both strengths and weaknesses, encouraging self-acceptance and growth.

Can I include past behaviors in my inventory?

The Fourth Step Inventory is primarily about a person's current character and behavior rather than past drinking or drug use. While it is essential to acknowledge issues that may stem from past actions, the focus should remain on present-day attributes and how those reflect one's values. This approach helps individuals to avoid using substance use as a blanket excuse for all negative behaviors.

What should I do after completing the Fourth Step Inventory?

Upon completing the inventory, the next step involves discussing identified flaws with a trusted person, as outlined in the Review of Flaws section. This conversation allows for further examination and understanding of those defects, and it aids in planning how to address them in the upcoming Steps Six, Seven, and Ten. Engaging in this dialogue can provide additional insights and support for personal growth.

Common mistakes

When filling out the Fourth Step Inventory form, many people can stumble due to common mistakes that hinder the effectiveness of the exercise. One significant error is failing to approach the process with honesty and fairness. While it's crucial to recognize one's flaws, an inclination to only focus on negative attributes can lead to a lopsided perspective. Balancing the inventory with an equal acknowledgment of assets is essential. This does not mean glossing over defects but instead embracing a comprehensive view that includes strengths. Seeing oneself from a more rounded perspective can foster compassion and understanding during this vulnerable process.

Another frequent misstep involves overloading the inventory with too many flaws listed in a chaotic manner. Many people attempt to tick off extensive lists of imperfections, only to find themselves overwhelmed and discouraged. The recommendation suggests honing in on the top 12 defects that cause the most trouble. This prioritization allows for clearer focus and targeted work in subsequent steps. By concentrating on the most pressing issues, individuals can effectively work toward real change instead of feeling lost in a lengthy inventory.

Some individuals also misinterpret the scope of the inventory by fixating on past behaviors rather than current traits. The Fourth Step encourages participants to examine their present selves, focusing on who they are now. This means taking ownership of the defects that persist and not attributing all past actions solely to substance use. Acknowledging how harmful behaviors may still be ingrained and influenced by their current mindset can foster deeper self-reflection. This kind of insight paves the way for significant growth and healing.

Lastly, many people neglect the critical process of following through after completing the inventory. Completing the Fifth Step is a natural extension of this work. It's tempting to think the inventory alone will result in immediate relief from character defects, but such change takes time and effort. Understanding that the subsequent steps work in tandem with the Fourth Step is vital. Continual engagement with the flaws identified allows individuals to work actively on transformation, ultimately leading to a richer understanding of themselves and their values.

Documents used along the form

When someone embarks on the journey of recovery, they often come across various tools and documents that can assist in their introspective work. Among these, the Fourth Step Inventory form plays a crucial role in identifying personal flaws and virtues. This process encourages deep reflection, helping individuals understand their behaviors and take steps towards change. Alongside the Fourth Step Inventory, several other forms and documents can be beneficial.

  • Review of Flaws Form: This form allows individuals to document specific examples of their character flaws. By providing concrete instances, a person can better understand how these flaws manifest in their lives, leading to greater insight and awareness. The goal is to illuminate the areas that need improvement and foster honesty in self-reflection.
  • Asset Inventory Worksheet: In tandem with identifying flaws, this worksheet focuses on recognizing positive traits and strengths. It encourages individuals to list their assets, promoting a balanced view of themselves while emphasizing the importance of acknowledging both good and bad characteristics.
  • Step Five Worksheet: After completing the Fourth Step, individuals may find the Step Five Worksheet useful. This document facilitates sharing the results of the inventory with another person, which is a critical part of the recovery process. The act of sharing fosters connection and accountability, essential components in healing.
  • Goals Setting Framework: Following the inventory process, creating a framework for setting personal goals can direct future efforts. This framework helps individuals outline specific, measurable, and attainable objectives based on the insights gained from their inventory. It paves the way for intentional growth and change.

Each of these documents works in concert with the Fourth Step Inventory to foster a comprehensive understanding of oneself. This journey requires diligence and honesty, but the rewards of self-awareness can lead to lasting change.

Similar forms

  • Personal Inventory Worksheets: Similar to the Fourth Step Inventory, these worksheets are designed to help individuals identify both positive traits and flaws in various aspects of their lives. They encourage a balanced view of oneself, prompting the user to focus on growth and self-awareness.
  • Character Assessment Forms: Character assessment forms serve as a tool to evaluate one’s personal qualities and behavioral traits. Like the Fourth Step Inventory, they emphasize honesty and reflection on strengths and weaknesses, aiming to foster personal development.
  • Journaling Exercises: Journals often include prompts for self-reflection, similar to the Fourth Step Inventory. Both encourage personal insight by asking users to write about their behaviors, feelings, and character traits, leading to greater self-understanding.
  • Feedback Forms: Feedback forms allow individuals to gather insights from others regarding their behavior and personality traits. Like the Fourth Step Inventory, they aim to highlight both positive attributes and areas for improvement through external perspectives.
  • SWOT Analysis: A SWOT analysis (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats) helps individuals assess themselves in a structured way. This method resonates with the Fourth Step Inventory by focusing on both strengths and weaknesses, promoting a holistic view of one’s life.
  • Life Review Worksheets: These worksheets might encourage users to reflect on significant life events and their impact on personal growth. They share a similar goal with the Fourth Step Inventory by prompting critical thinking about one’s past actions and current behaviors.
  • Goal Setting Worksheets: Goal setting worksheets encourage users to identify their personal objectives and obstacles. Much like the Fourth Step Inventory, these worksheets require individuals to express honest opinions about their current state, focusing on where they want to improve.

Dos and Don'ts

Things You Should Do:

  • Read pages 63-71 in the Big Book before starting the inventory.
  • Be honest in your assessment, yet remain fair to yourself.
  • Include both strengths and weaknesses in your inventory.
  • Focus on identifying the flaws that significantly affect your life.
  • Write down and prioritize the flaws that cause the most trouble.

Things You Shouldn't Do:

  • Do not limit yourself to the suggested checklist of flaws.
  • Avoid blaming all previous behaviors solely on substance use.
  • Do not become discouraged if character defects are not resolved quickly.
  • Do not check more flaws than assets; strive for balance.
  • Do not approach this process as a chance to criticize yourself harshly.

Misconceptions

Understanding the Fourth Step Inventory form can be challenging, and various misconceptions can hinder the process. Here are six common misunderstandings:

  • It’s all about self-blame: Many people think this inventory is a tool for punishing themselves for past mistakes. In reality, the goal is to reflect honestly on both strengths and weaknesses, allowing for personal growth, not self-loathing.
  • You must follow it exactly: Some believe that adherence to the worksheets is mandatory. However, these forms are just guides. Individuals can adapt them to fit their unique paths and needs.
  • It requires perfection: There's a misconception that one needs to have every flaw and asset perfectly identified before beginning the inventory. The process is meant to be flexible. It encourages iteration and ongoing reflection.
  • It’s solely about past behaviors: Many assume the inventory only addresses actions taken during periods of substance use. Instead, it focuses on who you are now and how to better align with your values moving forward.
  • You must identify the same number of assets and flaws: Some think the inventory is balanced; they must list equal amounts of both. The suggestion to note at least twice as many assets serves to combat negative self-talk, not to create a numerical equality.
  • The worksheets are officially endorsed: A significant misunderstanding is that these worksheets are officially produced by Alcoholics Anonymous. They have circulated unofficially among members for many years and are not formal AA documents.

By clearing up these misconceptions, individuals can approach the Fourth Step Inventory with a healthier mindset, making the experience more constructive and beneficial.

Key takeaways

Filling out the Fourth Step Inventory form is a significant process in self-discovery and personal growth. Here are 10 key takeaways to help you navigate this journey effectively:

  • Prepare Thoroughly: Before diving into the inventory, read pages 63-71 of the Big Book and the Fourth Step section in the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. This foundational knowledge sets the stage.
  • Practice Self-Compassion: This is not a tool for self-criticism. Be honest, yet fair to yourself. Recognizing both your strengths and weaknesses is essential.
  • Use the Checklist as a Guide: The provided checklist highlights potential flaws. However, it’s just a starting point. Feel free to add any flaws or assets that resonate with your personal experience.
  • Stay Present: Focus on who you are now, rather than who you were while drinking or using substances. Acknowledge past behaviors but don’t let them define your current self.
  • Be Patient with Yourself: Don’t expect instant change after completing your 5th Step. Personal transformation takes time and is addressed further in later steps of the program.
  • Prioritize Your Flaws: Concentrate on the handful of defects that cause the majority of your problems. Initially check off as many flaws as you wish, but narrow it down to the top 12 that significantly impact your life.
  • Balance Flaws with Assets: As you list your shortcomings, ensure you also identify at least twice as many positive traits. This balance prevents you from falling into self-deprecation.
  • Engage Actively: Use the inventory as a dynamic process. Check off defects and assets, then take action to discuss specific flaws with supportive peers or in a therapy setting.
  • Explore All Angles: Think deeply about your character defects. When reviewing them, provide best examples from your life to understand their impact and origins better.
  • Embrace Continuous Growth: Remember that this inventory is part of a larger journey. Continue evaluating your progress and be open to evolving your self-understanding as you advance through the Steps.